Sunday, May 27, 2007

Self Esteem and Confidence

I have an elementary school-aged daughter. And I'm amazed at how well she carries herself. She seems comfortable in her skin. A feeling I don't think I had at that age. And I've always wondered what it was in my growing up that made me so self-conscious, that made me so insecure. My parents were very affectionate and, even if not often verbally affirming, made me feel loved.

What can I do as a parent to give her the self-confidence I lacked?

I've read books. I've read articles. I've done my own brand of self-analysis. :) And I truly can't figure out what I can do. Or what my husband can do (although I suspect he may play as big if not bigger role). Or even what her older brothers can do.

But here are a few of the things I've come up with to try (and I do this with all my children, actually, not just my daughter):

To praise her freely and often.
To praise her for her her beauty but more often for her brains (and her kindness, her loving nature, her generosity, etc.).
To love myself so she'll be able to model that. (I just had that confirmed on Oprah!)
To tell her she's made in God's image, that God made her just the way she is, and that God doesn't make mistakes.
To tell her she can do anything she wants when she grows up.
To tell her she's a tough cookie. (And she is after growing up with two older brothers. She knows how to handle boys better than I ever did. She's "got their number".)
To keep her involved in physical activities so she'll feel good about her body--ie. sports or dance or horseback riding.
To make sure her brothers compliment her and build her up. (My husband does this already. He's a great "builder-upper".)
To teach her to care more about others so she'll look outward and not inward.

Hmmm. Maybe I should try to write a non-fiction book! :)

I know the world will give her lots of knocks. We can't help that. It's just the way life is. But maybe with God's help, she'll have a strong foundation and will hold firm in believing that she's a unique, loved child of God.

Like she feels right now.

I pray for safety and protection of her amazing spirit.

Missy

Monday, May 21, 2007

Come See Me on Tuesday!

Please come over to visit Christa Allan's blog on Tuesday. I'm doing my first blog interview, and I would love to have lots of visitors!



Christa is a fun interviewer and has a great blog. So please drop by!



http://cballan.wordpress.com/



Missy

Sunday, May 20, 2007

Tips on Working with an Editor

I received my line edits in the mail this week. Every step of this new process is so exciting!

For those who may not know (and I didn't) what this step entails, I received a copy of the manuscript with the editor's changes/corrections hand written in the pages and in the margins. Now I'll go through and answer questions or make additional changes she requested. There are items marked such as fixing timing of events that doesn't make sense, or following through with answering questions I've dropped hints about. Mainly, I'll be clarifying questions or problems the editor had on her read-through after my revisions. At this point, everything is pretty much minor. Ideally, all the larger problems were fixed in the revision process.

So this week I'll be doing my line edits. :) (That's so fun to say that!)

And speaking of working with an editor... I heard about an online class that is being offered that sounds great! Here's the info (with permission from Lyn to post):

TIPS ON PLEASING AN EDITOR ............................................Please come and join Lyn Cote at the http://www.rwaonlinechapter.org/pubbedauthors/ from 21 May to 25 May as she gives us some pointers about how to please an editor. Lyn Cote's first Love Inspired was published in 1998. Since then she has worked on over 20 books with 18 editors at 5 houses. And can still walk and talk at the same time! And since she is contracted through 2010, she must have figured out how to please an editor or many editors! Get your questions ready and come and join us!

I hope to join Lyn in her class. Maybe I'll see you there!

Missy

Monday, May 14, 2007

Wonderful Mother's Day

I had a wonderful Mother's Day. After church, our family went out to eat lunch--my choice of restaurants! :) And that was nice because no one was allowed to complain when I chose. We usually try to use a rather democratic way of figuring out where we're going to eat. We take a vote. We keep naming restaurants until we finally come up with a place that has at least 3 "yes" votes. :)

But today, I got to be the queen and name the place. No whining allowed. No voting necessary. And we had the nicest lunch at a local Italian place.

It was funny, though, because usually this place has huge servings. We always take leftovers home with us. So today when they offered a yummy special, lobster ravioli in cream sauce with asparagus, my daughter and I decided to share a dinner so we'd have room for dessert.

Well, they brought out the bowl and it had 5 ravioli in it (normal size, not very large). My daughter kept saying, "There are only 5 of them!" (She was starving.) So we each had our measly 2-1/2 . Then she moaned and groaned that she was still hungry. We made do with my son's side dish of spaghetti. But it was so funny to see the look on her face when she saw that small serving. I guess it was because of the cost of lobster.

I can't complain, though, because I still had plenty of room for hot fudge cake with vanilla ice cream and raspberry sauce! :)

Oh, I forgot to mention that I got breakfast in bed this morning prepared by my two youngest kids! Plus the gift certificate for the facial that I was wanting. :)

All in all (tiny ravioli aside), I had a perfect day.

Missy

Tuesday, May 08, 2007

Contest on F.A.I.T.H. this week!!

Come on over to the F.A.I.T.H. blog and help us celebrate motherhood this week!

Each day you stop by and leave a comment, you'll get one entry in a drawing for a leather purse filled with goodies. Don't miss out on a chance to win our Mother's Day Contest prize!

Check out my post on Thursday, my regular blogging day:

We’re having a Mother’s Day theme this week, focusing on family, and on being moms. For me, being a mom is God’s greatest blessing. And it hit me the other day that I should be thanking my kids instead of expecting them to honor me on Sunday. (Of course, I would still love a gift certificate for a facial!)... To read more of this post, click here.

Missy

Friday, May 04, 2007

I've been tagged by Trish Milburn!

Okay, this is the first time I've ever been tagged, so I hope I don't blow this! LOL

Here are the rules: 1. Each player starts with eight random facts/habits about themselves.

2. People who are tagged need to write their own blog about their eight things and post these rules.

3. At the end of your blog, you need to choose eight people to get tagged and list their names.

4. Don't forget to leave them a comment telling them they're tagged, and to read your blog.



8 random facts/habits about me ...

1. I cannot stand to watch myself on video tape! I was recently interviewed about my first sale and was horrified when I saw the show. There's absolutely no way I have such a southern accent! That couldn't have been me talking. They dubbed that voice in. ;)

2. I love classical music, and my very favorite is pipe organ music.

3. Along those same lines, another weird thing about me is I've already told my husband what organ pieces I want played at my funeral!

4. If you didn't run away screaming after that last strange fact, then here's another. I love to shop for cosmetics. Some people buy purses, some buy shoes. I buy eyeshadow and lip gloss.

5. I've lived in Georgia for half my life. I still can't believe it's been that long.

6. I have one sister who is 2 years younger. She's an elementary art teacher. She met the man of her dreams and married when she was 40. It was a first marriage for both of them. Nearly 2 years later, they're still sickenly sweet to each other, just like newlyweds. :)

7. We have 2 cats and 2 dogs. I much prefer dogs!

8. I've had 3 wrecks in my life, two of them in my own driveway. (I can't believe I'm admitting that.) Twice, I've backed into someone who is parked in my driveway.

And on that embarrassing note, I tag............

Lindi, Christy, Cheryl, Christa, Angie, Mindy, Jessica, Camy.

Wednesday, May 02, 2007

Interview with Debby Giusti on F.A.I.T.H. Thursday

I hope you'll stop over at the F.A.I.T.H. group blog on Thursday! I'm posting an interview with Debby Giusti. So hop on over and learn more about my good friend, a debut Steeple Hill Love Inspired Suspense author!

Here's a snippet of the interview:

Q. I loved Nowhere to Hide! It was so suspenseful and kept me guessing all the way through the book. Can you tell us a little about your story?

A. Hi, Missy. Thanks for inviting me to be on your blog, and thanks for your kind words about Nowhere to Hide. The story starts six months after Lydia Sloan’s husband has been murdered when she realizes the people who killed her husband are now after her son. Lydia and six-year-old Tyler flee to an island off the coast of Georgia and end up running into the danger they were trying to elude. Of course, there’s a hunky hero. Matt Lawson is the chief of island security, and when he finds Lydia breaking into one of the upscale island homes, he’s not sure which side of the law she’s on....

Head on over to www.writingbyfaith.blogspot.com to read more!

Missy